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And as I got older, more and more men I dated would comment on it: "I love how I can pick you up," "You're so cute and little," and even, "I'm only dating Chaya-sized girls from now on." I got rid of him shortly after.
One even said explicitly, "I feel so manly with you." It's sort of been a firsthand exercise in how a lot of guys associate traits they see as childlike with femininity — they equate my height with an overall smallness, and that then makes them feel "big," playing into a traditionally desirable gender binary and power structure between men and women.
I mean, the average American male is technically at 5'10", so by that measure I'm shorter than average, but should I self-identify as "short"?
And since I also have a wider frame, I've always felt a bit stockier than I'd like.
Plus, navigating the world of dating is already a mess, so being on an extreme end of any physical spectrum doesn't exactly make it any easier.
I've even been in a couple of dating situations where people have thought I was kidding when I came out to them as trans.I think the bigger issue is how comfortable random men are talking to me about my body.My height isn't a purely aesthetic feature you can comment on candidly, like a coat or a hat.As far as dating a woman taller than me, I'm definitely fine with it, but I'm also probably guilty of preemptively thinking I'm "too short" for a woman taller than me and not giving it a proper chance.When it comes down to it, it's not really even about the height.